My friend, who shall remain nameless, agreed this paragraph sounded more like plot device than serious internal monologue. And while I can understand that some women would probably have these sorts of attractiveness comparisons, the way Giffin chose to phrase it set the alarm bells ringing. See, Giffin is clearly writing to an audience, and that audience is not me. But years later, after Leo and I had long broken up, and Andy and I had begun to date, I would deconstruct that moment in exhausting detail, as any woman would. Like most women, I was about getting to know someone first—attraction based on personality.
But she does this audience a disservice when she serves up a story devoid of real controversy or conflict, filled instead with stereotypical characters and a pre-packaged plot that has been microwaved to room temperature. Ellen is one of the most bland narrators I have encountered in a long time.
Andy is Jacob: the stable, safe, but slightly boring choice, who happens to be from an alien culture Atlantan instead of Native American. And, like Bella, Ellen is spineless and indecisive, with the personality of an empty box of Tic-Tacs. Andy wants to move back to Atlanta to practise law with his father and have a big, ostentatious house. I suppose there are some legitimate issues that Giffin tackles here.
Similarly, everyone in the book keeps asking, in one way or another, when Ellen is going to start popping out babies. Again, not something that I can speak about from experience, but I can understand why that would be annoying and even demeaning. So I can see how some women who read this book might identify with what Ellen is going through.
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Yet for all the seriousness of these issues, Giffin never actually challenges or critiques them in any meaningful way. Literature, all literature, is powerful, and being something read for leisure does not excuse it from being well-written or thought-provoking. Moreover, what saves it from this label is not so much any redeeming quality as it is the fact that, like the main character, this book suffers from an incurable case of blandness.
Mar 03, Kelly Lamb rated it really liked it Shelves: chick-lit , fiction. I had both good and bad reactions to this book. Good: it definitely sucked me in. It was hard not to be constantly wondering what choices Ellen would make next.
The last 30 pages were impossible to put down. I also though Giffin did a good job of examining love and choice from a variety of angles. A very multi-facted way of viewing the storyline. She had great internal dialogue, but the fact that she would never talk to Andy about her feelings was absolu I had both good and bad reactions to this book. She had great internal dialogue, but the fact that she would never talk to Andy about her feelings was absolutely maddening.
Maybe that was supposed to say something about their relationship, but for a reader it was annoying at times.
And I felt the ending was just odd--the "compromise" that they came up with was entirely unrealistic. I'm all for the unpredictable ending, but I felt like Giffin was reaching on that one. Overall, I gave it a 4 because I liked the essential themes of this novel--true tests of love, deciding what it means to be truly committed, etc. I think everyone has gone through feelings of doubt like that at some point in their lives. But I can't say it's better than Giffin's first two novels, because the characters just got to me too much.
View 1 comment. Apr 04, Jeanne rated it liked it Recommends it for: fans of chick lit. Shelves: chick-lit.
So, I was totally psyched to read the latest offering from Emily Giffin. I loved, loved, loved her other novels. But her latest is different. It starts out slowly, almost slow enough to make me quit. She is a photographer and a newlywed, and she has just run into her ex, Leo.
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This is where the story gets good! Running into her ex leads to both physical and emotional reactions in Ellen. Is Leo the love of her life? Did she really ever get o So, I was totally psyched to read the latest offering from Emily Giffin. Did she really ever get over him?
And how does her husband, Andy, fit in? Was he the right choice, or did she settle for him? This complex combination of feelings and questions sets up the rest of the novel. Ellen will grapple with love, lust, duty, and honor, all while just trying to achieve some level of happiness. View 2 comments. May 21, Rupa rated it it was ok. I have to admit that I do like some "chick-lit" and that I have read all of Emily Giffin's books.
That said, I really didn't think that this book was anything special. The plot was predictable, and the characters weren't particularly memorable. This book spoke to me because it mirrored my own struggle with my decision to end my marriage. At times it was as if the author was in my head, telling my story, although unlike Ellen, I didn't stay with my husband.
europeschool.com.ua/profiles/vifiliv/conocer-gente-en-facebook.php Overall I really liked the book. However, there were a few things that bothered me. I thought that Ellen and Margot were too cliched. Ellen was the poor girl from Pittsburgh whose best friend Margot is the picture perfect Southern girl without a single flaw. Despite saying that she do This book spoke to me because it mirrored my own struggle with my decision to end my marriage.
Despite saying that she doesn't resent Margot, it's quite clear that she does. Ellen's husband Andy who is also Margot's brother was also just too picture perfect. The way he instantly forgave her after going to see Leo in NYC seemed way too unrealistic. I was disappointed that the author made a happy ending. Mar 25, Jessica rated it it was ok. I'm curious to know whether Emily Giffin can write a book without a destroyed marriage or infidelity.
Because every one of the books that I've read of hers include this, and not just as a secondary theme, but as the main plot of the book. Honestly, its monotonous. Infidelity is not at all something that I agree with, but granted, she writes the situations in a way that you can sympathize with the characters. That being said, every author has to have more than one plot line when they are writing I'm curious to know whether Emily Giffin can write a book without a destroyed marriage or infidelity. That being said, every author has to have more than one plot line when they are writing multiple books.
And frankly, no matter the character's jobs or the different ways infidelity was brought about, all of these books are the same. Giffin needs a new focus in her novels. Even John Grisham, who mostly writes books about lawyers and courtroom battles has different plots.
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It keeps it excited and not knowing what is going to happen. Giffin is a one hit wonder, it just so happens she has multiple books. Jul 03, Bree rated it it was ok Shelves: chick-lit. It took me days to read this book which a chick lit book takes 1 or 2 days to read. I found the main character Ellen as a whiny, ungrateful brat.
That is funny because the author wrote a sad background story for her: poor, pittsburgh breed, lost her mother as teen. However I felt angry as I read the book that she was such a bitchy woe is me kind of girl. I tried to think about my past relationships to connect with her feelings of her ex but I just don't think any of my ex's are worth the feeling It took me days to read this book which a chick lit book takes 1 or 2 days to read.
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I tried to think about my past relationships to connect with her feelings of her ex but I just don't think any of my ex's are worth the feelings that Ellen gave her ex. There is a reason your ex is your ex, you didn't do well together. The book did send emotion through me but I normally like my light reading to be funny and make me feel good. I just felt hateful towards the main character and what she was doing. It's just too bad I waited a long time for this book to be returned to the library.
Jan 03, Lucie rated it did not like it. I quite liked the idea of the story: Ellen is married but after days of marriage she bumps into her ex-boyfriend Leo.